CONTACTING & INVITING

 

I might need therapy as the cognitive behavior-type actively seeking new relationships. 

Linda Buscemi, Ph.D. wrote the book Innatious:  an Innovative Tool to Strengthen Your Emotional IQ. Based on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, she coined the term to mean an innate, instinctual desire to please ourselves even in the process of serving others--- the premise being our actions, reactions and behaviors are an innate, often unconscious desire to fulfill and gratify our inner needs. I quote:

There's inauthenticity in our relationships. There are people who look for the "right" partner based on an image they've adopted from their parents or society, only to realize that the relationship doesn't work for who they truly are underneath it all.

Most people tend to attract the same kinds of relationships, whether personal or business, and that tendency is largely a result of their innatiousness. When these patterns create relationships that are out of balance, they cause conflict, confusion, and sometimes pain.

Our relationships improve when we change assumptions and judgments. This psychologist further explores the most common types of unconscious bias:

  1. Confirmation bias
  2. Similar-to-me bias
  3. Beauty bias
  4. Attribution bias

Can cheaper therapy be had when our conflicted friends take the time to be with us? Or simpler yet, should I sign up for PSYCH 101 in the Spring semester? It may make it easier to take the NOs in stride. Doesn't honey turn out sweeter when the hive is in sync?

And now, a word from Jordan Peterson: 



 

 

 


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